Thread:Nausiated/@comment-4651179-20181219025147/@comment-61022-20181219190423

What I am trying to say:

Instead of immediately concluding my intent and say "you're being this" try and understand that I don't make an emotional connection to words. Instead say "Hey Nick, people might see this as _____ becauase ____"

Anything above is accusatory and not helpful for me to understand the social cues at play when I communicate with people. It's like, to use a crude metaphor, like trying to house train a dog by rubbing its head on the carpet when it pees inside. The dog doesn't understand why you're upset at them and they don't learn anything from it. You're doing more harm than good at correcting the behavior.