Thread:Nausiated/@comment-4651179-20181219025147/@comment-61022-20181219205721

Annabelle: Thank you for putting it into perspective. As you may understand, sympathy and empathy are concepts that are difficult to grasp for someone in my condition.

At risk of beating a dead horse: I again apologize for people taking my words out of context, and I am trying.

But now that we're talking about it, I want to point out some problematic issues here:

ADour is, again, suggesting that I am lying about my condition. He speaks of my "track record". I'm sorry ADour, but my condition doesn't allow me to change behavior at the flip of a switch. I was only diagnosed a few years ago and I'm working to overcome over 30 years of learned behavior. That's no easy task and requires extensive therapy and it is expensive and meeting my needs is prohibitive. You've been aware of this for months now, and still, you dictate how I should conduct myself with the ignorance of someone who does not understand my struggles.

Also, am I the only one to notice that "these conversations" always happen when ADour goes out of his way to try and "correct" my behavior.

Since he's expressed his doubts about my condition, perhaps he is the wrong person to be addressing any issues, as I'm being made aware of in this thread, shared by the rest of you.

I get it, I come off as harsh and unapproachable, some of you may be reluctant to approach me with anything. But perhaps if there is a collective agreement with my conduct in the future, ADour is the last person that should be approaching me with the issue.

I suggest that since ADour has made it clear (a) he doesn't like me (which fine, that's his personal preference) and (b) he has, on more than on occasion, doubted my condition, he shouldn't be the one to approach me with the issue. There's a clear conflict of interest and is a license for him to bully me under the veneer of "the following policy"

So in the future, I ask that ADour stop contacting me from this point forward because it is bordering on harassment. If he has an issue, perhaps he should be delegating it to someone who is more willing to play devil's advocate and give the benefit of the doubt to all parties.